Thirty days into 2019, we want to check in on how your resolution is going so far. Based on a recent study, most resolutions fail before January even comes to an end (New York Post). This failure rate can be quite defeating, but just because you didn’t hit your resolution goals during January, doesn’t mean you can’t redeem yourself in February.
Looking back on our recent blog post “Make Your Resolution Last”, we discuss why 80% of resolutions don’t make it through the first two months: you take on too much, your goals are too high, and you quit too quickly. We also offered some key tips on how to set a realistic resolution, but while your intentions are all good when setting a resolution, the reality of sticking to it is when good intentions can quickly turn bad.
If you are part of the population who has already thrown in the towel on your resolution, we are here to tell you to give it another shot, and to give yourself a break.
Creating new habits is really hard; in fact, it takes an average of sixty-six days for someone to create a new, healthy habit (Psychology Today). It’s no wonder that most people give up on their resolution so early in the game because they aren’t giving themselves enough time to create the habit. It’s easier in the early stages to make excuses for skipping the gym, eating fast food, having a cigarette, or spending on something you don’t really need. This is because the first few months require a lot of will power and you are actually breaking an old habit to form a new one. It’s hard work.
As you reassess your goals after the first thirty days, ask yourself these questions:
- Was my initial goal realistic?
- Did I let a couple “failures” define my overall success?
- Did I take on too much at once?
- Did I neglect to plan for how I would accomplish my goal?
Answer these questions honestly, and if you answer #1 with “no” and #’s 2-4 with “yes”, then you will know that you failed to set yourself up for success, and that’s okay! Take this opportunity to redefine your goal to make it more realistic, and remember, you still have time to make your new, healthy habit stick. Try spending 10-15 minutes writing about why you set your resolution in the first place to help you rediscover your motivation.
Resolutions might begin on the first day of the new year, but creating a lifelong habit doesn’t need such a harsh timeline; all it needs is consistent effort and willingness to look past your “failures”.