As most people in long-term relationships understand, maintaining the same interests, passions, and goals in all areas of life can be hard – almost impossible. This applies to health and fitness goals for a lot of couples. When you have a healthy goal that your partner does not participate in or even fully support, it is hard to keep your momentum and excitement levels high, but that doesn’t mean that you should give up on your goal!
For couples with lifelong commitments to one another, it is natural to want your partner to be active and eat healthy so you can enjoy a long life together, but what happens when one of you values a healthy lifestyle and the other doesn’t? “It can be tough on a relationship when one person is active and the other person isn’t. If you’re the exerciser, you worry about the other person’s weight along with their health, mortality, and stress levels. If you’re the non-exerciser, you may feel guilty all the time for not being as active as the other person” (Verywell Fit). The scenario can go one of three ways – keep reading to learn how to navigate each scenario.
Your Partner Joins Your Movement
This is the ideal scenario! When your partner sees the benefits you enjoy from eating healthier and sticking to a workout routine, they might get inspired to start making changes too. The key to making this work is not pressuring your partner to join you or to adopt the same approach to wellness as you. Fitness is very personal, so it’s important to support your partner in finding the right type of workout and nutrition that works best for them – even when this might look very different from the plan you follow. If you do want to workout together, try one of these 15 partner exercises from LiveStrong!
Your Partner Supports Your Lifestyle
Let’s face it, your partner might not want to join you in your healthy lifestyle changes. While this may change over time, you cannot expect your partner to jump right on board, but you can expect them to support you. Support can come in many forms – from watching the kids while you workout, to not bringing home bags of junk food – let your partner know how important your healthy goals are to you and inform them on the support you need to achieve them. Here is a tip to keep everyone happy at meal times in this scenario: put healthy twists on your favorite comfort foods. Try one of these healthy recipes from Tasty to show your partner that eating healthy isn’t that bad!
Your Partner Doesn’t Support You
This is the worst scenario, but if it is the one you face, it definitely doesn’t mean that you should give up on your goals. Here is the key: you need to understand that your partner might be happy in the lifestyle you were previously living together and they probably aren’t ready to change that. Healthy changes are tough without your partner’s participation or support, but they are still possible. Stick to your goals, remember why you started in the first place, and don’t let your partner drag you down. A great tip for someone in this scenario is to find another source of support- family, friends, or a trainer at your gym. Do whatever you have to do to maintain the drive to accomplish your goals!